The go-to moves that one woman loved might leave another one snoring. Here's how to be a fabulous lover, every single time.
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The takeaway here isn't that you should go all Neanderthal on the next woman you sleep with. Rather, it's that good sex is about the connection you have with your partner. It's about working together instead of doing the usual thing that's worked for you or for your partners in the past.
Some women like sex rough and crazy, and others like it gentle and sweet. Most of us, though, like it all sorts of ways, and those preferences can change depending on all sorts of factors—the time of the month, the time of the day, what we ate, whether we're feeling stressed or sad
or happy or playful. Your job is to figure it out. If you want to be labeled "Best Lover Ever" by the next girl you sleep with, the key is to pay attention and communicate. Notice her energy, notice how she reacts physically and emotionally to your moves, notice if certain words excite her, or if certain touches make her shrink away. When in doubt, ask yes or no questions—Does this feel good? Do you like this? Want it harder? Want me to add a finger? Can I pull your hair? Can I smack your ass? Am I the best lover ever. or what? (No, actually, don't ask that.)
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