Relationships aren't about finding how to be right for a person. they're about finding out who's right for you. So a key going in is to know what you're ok and not ok with.
2 key indicators that your relationship might be a winner:
- you have mutual grace for each-others weakness
Everybody values different things, some are negotiable, some area dealbreakers. It's up to you to know what your values are. If you are a person who needs a man who's there, who puts you first, who values "together", then don't settle for a man who isn't that or isn't willing to
be that cause it's an easy price to pay in order to love you. There are millions of men who value a work life that promotes a relationship-first, family-first lifestyle. If it's one of your values, don't settle for less.
If you're still in the dating season and things aren't going smooth as butter, there's a major indicator that this thing likely doesn't have what it takes for a successful lifelong-love.
As an example, my wife, before meeting me, got so tired of dating men who didn't line up with what she actually wanted that she made a list. All in all, it was about 30 items long, some very specific. It was what she knew in her heart she needed from a relationship. She gave the list to God and said that she knew that was what He wanted for her.
Needless to say, through a series of extraordinary events, we met each other and I am everything on her list. hysterically so. creepily so. I mean e-harmony couldn't have done better.
So be confident and know what is and isn't for you.