Emotional Affair - how to deal with it.
I have been married for over 20 years and have grown kids. About a year ago I started getting these funny feelings and intuition that something was up with my husband, in all the years I have been married I have never felt this way. I ignored these feeling and thought I was imagining stuff and thought that I was making a big deal about nothing. I should have listened to my gut feeling as it is usually right, the signs were there.
Anyway a few months ago I found out by looking at my husbands phone bill that he was talking to another woman (someone I know and thought was a friend) anywhere from 4 to 10 times a go, althought the calls were not long. He also admitted after I confronted him that he went out for drinks with her and also visited her at her apartment.
He claimed that nothing happened sexually and he did not sleep with her. After I kept at it he admitted that when he was drunk and he went over there he thought about having sex with her, which I already knew cause why else would be be hanging out with her in the middle of the night.
I don't know how to act, since he claims he never had sex with her he thinks he did nothing wrong. As a woman I don't want my husband talking or hanging out with this woman as it could
lead to no good.
He has broken all contact with her and told me he wants to work on our marriage, which I believe. We were having some issues with our marriage but nothing that was so bad that he had to go out and seek contact with another woman. The usual typical stuff of when you have been married for a long time, drifting apart and intimacy problems with him wanting sex and me being resentful of him not paying me any attention so not wanting sex.
My dilemma is how to move forward from this point. He is also acting angry and does not like it when I ask him anything about this.
Thanks for listening, it feels good to talk about it as we have not told any of our family or friends because I still care so much about him I don't want our family and friends judging him and thinking badly about him.
I am hurt, confused, bewildered and have trouble focusing on things, I think my husband thinks I am making a big deal about this because nothing happened and he thinks I should forgive and forget.
Any advice or experiences you have had with this would be appreciated if you could share.
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