Recently, we heard some surprising news that's not so good for your orgasm. According to Harry Fisch. M.D. a board-certified urologist and the author of The New Naked: The Ultimate Sex Education for Grown-Ups . revealed a shocking statistic: during sex, 45 percent of men finish within two minutes .
He may be best known as Jennifer Aniston's fiance now, but Justin Theroux will always be Vaughn Wysel, the premature ejaculator from Sex and the City to me.
Sex doesn't always have to a slow, tantric-inspired session, but two minutes is not enough time for most women to catch up and get to the good stuff. Experts call this "the arousal gap." So, what can you and your guy do to help him last longer in bed? We went straight to an expert who would know, Laurence A. Levine, M.D. a urologist and the chief medical officer of Promescent. an FDA-approved topical spray that helps men last longer. Dr. Levine provided some tips you and your guy can incorporate to improve performance.
1. Kegels for Him. You may already be doing yours, which can help heighten your arousal. But he should be doing his own version of male keels. "Studies show that Kegel exercises can help men improve the strength of their erection and help with premature ejaculation," says Dr. Levine. Here's a how-to guide for him if he's all, "Is a kegel a breakfast food?"
2. Try Different Positions. Don't stick to just one position from beginning to all-too-soon end during sex. "Switching positions and trying different types of stimulation can provide continued arousal but maybe not to the point of orgasm," advises Dr. Levine. "So
if she takes longer, as is usually the case, she can gear up to the orgasms more gradually with him and both can last longer."
3. Be Active. You don't have to exercise together if you don't want to, but Dr. Levine says that it's important for your sex life that you both to stay in shape. "Exercising regularly will keep the blood flowing for both of you," he says. "Both of you will feel healthier, and you get the bonus endorphins and stamina to mix into your couple time." And it doesn't have to be a major change; losing just 10 pounds can help boost your sex drive.
4. Quit Smoking! Um, you should already know this by now. But in case you and/or your guy needed one more reason to quit, lighting up is dark news in the bedroom. "A healthy vascular system is essential if your man wants to have a reliable and strong erection," Dr. Levine warns. "Smoking does nothing but slow both of you down."
5. Try a Topical Medication. "OTC solutions like Promescent allows him to delay orgasm without reducing your sensitivity," says Dr. Levine. "More control makes for a longer-lasting sexual experience." Just be sure to follow the instructions and test it out to find the right dosage for your guy.
6. Limit Drinking. A drink or two is fine (especially if it helps get you in the mood), but anything more can ruin it all. "Alcohol is a depressant and at higher doses can put him at risk of delivering a poor performance," states Dr. Levine.
Is finishing too fast a problem for your guy? Does it bother you?