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First approach her next time you see her. try to get her attention ( make sure shes and you are out of earshot of others ). The basic principle is this. show more First approach her next time you see her. try to get her attention ( make sure shes and you are out of earshot of others ).
The basic principle is this, you should have the common grounds rules understood. In other words, this is an understanding between you and her and every other human ever alive without ever being told or said, and that common ground is this "hey it doesnt matter if you are busy something else or have a busy week already scheduled, perhaps an another time, but this is my request, and I really wish if you have the time", ( This is important, coz you honestly may not know what is her schedule like, for all you know her mother maybe sick, or she may have a math exam shes stressed our about) This way you are protecting yourself and her from a complete commitment to comply and giving her the comfort of trust and a chance to excuse gracefully. Once you understand and trust this mutual principle of excuse, you are ready. Keep in mind, all that is said upto this point is just understood, but not spoke. Yet, the only words you speak are as follows. Say this way, in
a single breath, with an honest, eager tone and with a smile
" Hey, <her name> can we please hangout sometime? would like to hangout with me. "
( The trick is to ask two questions. not one question. its a small mind game, but you will get a definite yes or a no. ) (and by the way look at her eyes as you ask these questions and after you ask her simply face her, dont stare and bore into her eyes, you only look at her eyes, but keep the eye contact if you feel necessary, its up the occassion, and how she response)
The only possible outcome if this type of approach are as follows,
Now she is either prompted to give you a positive answer ( if she really likes you as you have mentioned), coz she definetly do not want to disappoint you She will respond with a yes or 'um yea, of course, why not. Or she would tell you why she is busy and would give you a different date or a suggestion (perhaps even a small sample of how her schedule is like)
she would give you an excuse and would leave it hanging or would give you an unsure reply which means that she isnt interested and wont be in the future.
So there you have it. Be sure to sound confident.
prodigy · 7 years ago