Remember that person you saw on the tube that you thought was devastatingly attractive but didn't have the nerve to talk to? With our help, you may never have to wonder if the one that got away was actually 'The One'. Follow these easy steps and you will have the confidence to chat someone up on public transport.
Step 1: Dealing with the Environment
Public transport is a tough environment. Nobody really wants to be there, and most people don't like any intrusion into their privacy, preferring to focus on getting to work or getting home. To chat someone up successfully on public transport you need to be quick-thinking and decisive without being aggressive. It's a difficult thing to pull off, but just remember- it might be your soul mate that is escaping. never to be seen again.
Step 2: The check out
Wow! Check them out! You've seen someone you fancy, but you must act quickly as they may be getting off at the next stop. No time to lose. but wait- are they with someone? If so, does this person look like their other half? Chatting up someone's other half is inadvisable, and may end in tears.
Step 3: Positioning
No! They are on their own! All systems go!
Step 4: Props
It's useful to have a newspaper, book or magazine in your hands, as it gives you something to pretend to look at, instead of awkwardly glancing around or staring off into space. If you have an mp3 player, be sure to take your headphones off, or you will look inapproachable. If you already have headphones on when you spot your target, casually take them off. If they are wearing headphones, then starting a conversation is going to be very difficult and you may want to consider Plan B, which is outlined later in the film.
Step 5: Eye contact
This is the best way to
tell if someone finds you physically attractive. Begin by glancing up at him/her, catching their eye and holding it for a second or two. Then look away. Thirty seconds or so later, look up again, if he or she looks back again, this is a sign that they are interested. You may wish to repeat this move before you speak up as it is easy to misread these signals. If they don't look back at you the second time the chances are they're not interested, and you proceed at your peril.
Step 6: Smile
When you catch their eye for the second time, you might feel that a smile is appropriate; it'll make you seem friendly and approachable. If they smile back, it's likely that you're on to a winner. However, too much smiling can look odd, so be careful not to overdo it.
Step 7: Body language
Body language is a great give-away for how someone feels about you. After you've caught their eye and they have smiled, check out their body language. If they've angled themselves towards you this is a good sign.
Make sure your own body language is positive. Don't cross your arms, your legs, or hunch your shoulders; these are negative signals. Instead, angle your body toward them. You can also employ the technique of 'mirroring' where you subtly copy their body movements. If they shift positions in their seat, make a similar shift a few seconds later. If they brush their hair away from their face, do the same shortly afterwards. Done well, this can have the effect of making them feel in tune with you
Step 8: Speaking up
Now it's time to start a conversation. Most people don't have the nerve for this, but you must seize the day! You're on a timescale - they might have to get off at the next stop, so it's best to act quickly. Reassure yourself that you'