ABC News’ Alex Waterfield and Lauren Effron report:
Challenging the Secrets of Seduction
These self-proclaimed “nerds” from California have mastered all kinds of approaches – from witty to absurd to downright gross. They then share their failures and triumphs in a new YouTube video each week that shows the clueless male masses how to score a girl’s phone number, get her to go out on a date or get her to go home with you. The videos on their “Simple Pickup” YouTube channel have racked up tens of thousands of hits.
Although their idea of good fun has often been criticized as misogynist, the guys say getting phone numbers from girls is so easy they can score even while dressed in Halloween costumes.
So how many phone numbers do they get? “Well, it’s enough where were getting dates on a consistent basis,” Pham said.
In an interview with “Nightline,” the guys showed off their pickup skills and explained how they do it. Watch the full story here:
According to Pham, working up the nerve to talk to girls starts with conquering what he calles those “b—- butterflies.” “B—- butterflies” are the one-two punch many men feel in the stomach when they’re around an attractive girl and trying to work up the initiative to talk to her.
Below is advice from an adapted ”Simple Pickup” video titled “Scared of Talking to Girls? – Simple Tips” in which Pham gives his advice. You can watch the full video on their YouTube channel HERE .
Tip 1: Don’t Lie to Yourself
Do not make excuses for being too afraid to go up to a girl, Pham says. “B—- butterflies” are a normal feeling, especially if you’re new to the dating scene, but realize this is a completely irrational fear.
Tip 2: Don’t Be Afraid to Fail
Think of picking up girls as a “No Risk, High Reward” situation. “If you go up to a girl and say, ‘Hi,’ and she rejects you, then nobody loses. You walk away. Life goes on. But in case she does like you, you guys have a connection. Then you could potentially get a wife, get a girlfriend,
or just get laid,” Pham says.
Tip 3: Talk About Things You Want to Talk About
“It doesn’t matter if she is into the conversation or not, as long as you’re having fun. That’s the most important aspect. Do this enough times and eventually you’ll be indifferent, completely, to rejection. Once you approach picking up girls from the ‘I’m going to fail’ mind-set it takes a lot of the pressure off,” he says.
Oftentimes, guys worry about what to say. “This doesn’t matter,” Pham says. “Face your fear of not knowing what to say and accept that it’s OK to run out of things sometimes.”
Tip 4: Talk About Anything
Talk about nonsense, nonstop if necessary. Ask her about her favorite vegetable, whether she likes raisin bread, her favorite color of leaves — then ask for her phone number.
“The reason you run out of things to say is because you’re nervous,” Pham says. “From now on, practice talking about nonsense when you forget what to say, and eventually this problem will auto-correct itself.”
Tip 5: Don’t Memorize Lines or Weird Routines
“This, for sure, will clog your mind and make your butterflies even worse,” Pham says. ”Don’t try to script a conversation. Girls will know you are faking it. Instead, just try to have fun with it and enjoy your failures until you get better.”
Tip 6: ‘B—- Butterflies’ Never Go Away, but It Gets Easier
Think about the first time you went on a roller coaster. You were probably terrified. Now think about the second time. It’s a little less scary, because you sort of know what to expect. Now think about the third, fourth, hundredth time you went on that roller coaster. Not so scary, right?
“Talking to girls is the same way,” Pham says. “You’re always going to have those butterflies in your stomach, and at first you’re nervous or maybe even scared, but the more girls you talk to, the more the scared feeling will turn into an excitement feeling, and you’ll see that you’ll actually want to talk to girls, because it’s fun.”